Everything that used to make you who you are, doesn’t anymore. You feel like you have lost your spark and you can't relate to the person you were before.
They try to know things about you but from a point of judgement not curiosity. They wield your past mistakes as a weapon for future use.
They often dismiss your feelings saying it's not that big of a deal or you’re overreacting. Sometimes it can look like generalizing your accomplishments by saying anyone can do that.
To be empathetic means to look at a situation from wearing another person’s shoes. Instead of being understanding and affectionate, you are often served with lectures on being grateful and how others have it much worse.
It may be to interact with friends or to attend some celebration without them - it is limited, you are a second person of authority in your own life.
Everytime you try to have a decent conversation it feels like things might tip off the boiling point. You feel like you’re on thin ice every time you have something to say.
They will constantly check you and need a regular update on your whereabouts, before you do something that makes you happy, you have to consider whether or not your partner may get mad about it.